When you want something like a lasting relationship, the yearning can consume your thoughts and feelings and convince you that happiness lies outside of you sometime in the future. Not all singles feel the sadness of being alone, but most experience a range of emotions from fear to frustration. If you are unhappy with your current social status, it may be difficult for you to generate a good feeling and imagine being blissfully in love in your visualization exercises.
In order to make your visualizations more effective, you need to generate the feeling of your desire to make a shift in the subconscious mind. When you are feeling the opposite emotion most of the time, this can be a challenging task. To assist you, I recommend going back in your subconscious memory banks and bring up a good feeling from the past to use in your hypnosis exercise.
Your subconscious has recorded all of your life experiences along with the feeling associated with that event. As you imagine yourself back in that time or place, your deeper mind will trigger those good feelings automatically. This is because the inner mind doesn’t know that time has passed and you can easily fool it to believe that it has happening in the present moment.
If you’ve had hard life and cannot think of any happy time to use, you can make one up. Your memories are part fact, part fantasy anyway. Imagine a scenario that makes you feel good, even being in the arms of your future love. Your subconscious doesn’t have a concept of time so it thinks it is happening in the present and will bring up those feelings automatically. It works the same as using “real” memories and sometimes can be even more powerful.
Your subconscious has the capacity to feel good. Your database of emotions was created before you were five years old. Even if you don’t have a conscious memory of feeling good, there is a part of you that does remember. The inner mind is so powerful, you sometimes have to step aside and allow it to do the work for you naturally. Imagination is a great tool to get your logical mind out of the way, suspending disbelief so that you can feel good.
The emotions you feel are not created from external events but your interpretation of them. All of your feelings can be accessed by focusing your thoughts and mental images that relate to that emotion. This is why hypnosis visualization is so powerful. What you imagine becomes real inside of you and you can access your “happy place” without leaving your bedside.
The idea that you can create your own feelings despite external situations is very empowering. You become free from attachment of something happening out there to make you feel good. When you get into the habit of going to your happy place every day, you external circumstances will shift to match that feeling, bringing your true love to you much faster. As you become of master of your mind, you can learn to create from the inside out and you can be happy right now.