When you want true love or to grow your business, there are some things you have to do to get there that may seem temporarily undesirable. Maybe you just want to meet “him” and don’t like dating. You may want the results but often what is stopping you is the resistance to the discomfort that you face to get the man, the money or the body of your dreams.
The subconscious mind is always looking for the easy, familiar route and being challenged is something that it will resist. For years I used to walk as my exercise. Walking was easy and beautiful on the flat bike paths in Colorado. I liked how it helped relieve my stress and I got to chat it up with a friend. I walked a lot but my body still looked the same. Then, I hired a personal trainer to kick my butt. I had to get up at 5 am every day, but I actually had a body I was proud to show off on a nude beach. (That’s another story!)
Lazy dating happens when you have tried a few things that didn’t work and you just want to push a button to make your single life go away. You decide that you will wait for divine timing or maybe you will just listen to guided meditations and then magically your life will change when the man on the white horse arrives on your doorstep. Your subconscious is lazy, it wants you to avoid any effort because it wants you to stay in the status quo.
Resistance happens in personal development, too, when you try a few online courses or workshops and avoid the really intense work. You want to skip over the processes that make you really face your fears. I used to dance around the obvious issues and get some quick energy clearings where I could lay back and let the lady with the patchouli do her magic. Just like my walking non-exercise, it felt good and easy but I was still stuck.
When I faced the resistance straight on, I wanted to run. I knew what I had to do but I was so afraid. My mind tried to justify why I shouldn’t and how it may turn out bad. In that moment, my desire to break free was stronger than the temporary discomfort and even embarrassment I had to face. I ignored the urge to stay put and called my Dad for a deep talk which turned out to be the most life-transforming conversation.
As I was building my business in the beginning, I was always looking for the silver bullet to make it successful. What really helped my business grow was to do some things that were very uncomfortable like going on television, networking, public speaking, studying and even working long hours to get the job done. Every time I moved beyond what I was afraid of, my business grew.
Most people don’t even realize that they are facing resistance. Externally, they feel like they are working a lot, investing in programs, reading books, and even marathon dating. They are really busy and trying really hard to get results. What holds them back is they are working on the wrong things, spinning their wheels and skipping over some places that make them cringe a bit. They have movement without momentum.
To break free and get the love, money, body and success you want, you have to look at where you are stopping yourself from crossing over the fear-barrier. To make an immediate change, think about the activities or processes that you have been avoiding and face them head on. Once you break the cycle of resistance in one area, you have the strength and perseverance to shift your entire life. You realize that the things you feared as so uncomfortable were actually no big deal and you become unstoppable for amazing love, great wealth and an extraordinary life.