Welcome to the real psychology of love.

No Healing Required!

Next Class is February, 2015 – get on waiting list here…

Dear Beautiful Lovable One,
Debi Berndt and Roberto Maldonado

What if the reason you are still single (and not engaged) has less to do with you being broken and more to do with how you unconsciously select potential partners?

There’s a reason you’re not engaged. There’s a reason you are alone.

As a former long-time single, I KNOW how experts make you feel out there. I used to feel there was something wrong with me because I was single.

What if there was something RIGHT with you? What if you decided NOT to settle and you are holding out for GREAT LOVE?

Robert and I are on a mission to empower single women and men to discover how to be their true selves, drop the dating games and stop the endless healing and feeling of woundedness that has been implied in so many other courses and programs.

The good news is that you are not wounded, you simply aren’t conscious of what is driving your romantic choices. Our work is based on Carl Jung’s individuation process and we believe (as he did) that everyone has been born with a great potential for love and that potential is never broken or damaged due to your personal history.

Truly Life Changing Journey!

Robert. Debbie. This is unlike anything I have ever experienced in my life. This is real. This is true love. This is what I prayed for, asked for and hoped was truly possible.
Tears well up in my eyes as my heart is overflowing with gratitude.
He has worked me through a few fears and a few shadows and is as solid as a rock.
He believes I am the woman he has been looking for all his life and it feels like best friends, true love and the added bonus of romance. 

My children adore him and want me to marry him. He asked me to chose a ring last night.
When things are official, I will of course update you.I just HAD to take an opportunity to thank you from the depths of my heart for taking us through a truly life changing journey. It is exactly what I needed, exactly when I needed it.  God Bless you!
-S.B., (Minnesota, USA)

The truth is that finding the love of your life does not happen by accident. It’s the result of creating what we call…

Conscious Chemistry™:
the creation of a powerful attraction with the person who is meant for the true you.

In our Engaged in a Year™ Program, we’ll show you how to stop hoping to find love, and FINALLY find it.

In this program we’ll show you:

  • Why finding love shouldn’t be so hard
  • Your Love Shadow™ that is actually preventing you from actually seeing your ideal partner (who could be right next to you right now)
  • How to stop fixing yourself and re-arranging the furniture of your belief system to make it “perfect enough so you can find love”
  • How to stop picking at the problem and start focusing on your great love potential
  • Move beyond “working” on your personal unconscious (conditioning of the past, family history, etc.) to exploring your true, unlimited self.
  • How to let go of the urgency to find someone and relax into dating, enjoying the process
  • How to meet your Inner Adam® (or Eve) – your unconscious mate selector – and direct this part of you to create conscious chemistry with the right match for you.
  • How to find the love of your life and fall passionately in love
  • FINALLY! Get that shiny diamond on your ring finger or give one to a special someone

Debi Berndt Officiating WeddingA Successful Creative Love Story

“It looks like the wedding will probably be May 18th.

I’m really excited! Thanks.

I really do think the visualizations for attracting a loving partner was what helped draw us to each other!”

C.B. | Denver, CO

P.S. Look closely! That’s me, Debi Berndt, officiating her wedding in beautiful Colorado!


Yes, I want to get

Engaged in A Year™!


Includes 6-part Engaged in A Year Course, Private Facebook Group Community, One Love Alignment Session and Creative Love Visualizations

Basic Level

 ONLY $1497

Regularly $1997

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If you’re one of the millions of women and men who have been seduced by Hollywood, then this story may seem familiar to you:

Fairytale LoveFrom the time you were a child you were told that true love magically finds you on your own. That love is a happy accident that happens when you are buying groceries on a random Tuesday.

That if you followed certain rules and adhered to Hollywood’s vision of true love, then your prince (or princess) charming would arrive to sweep you off your feet and carry you into the sunset to live happily ever after

Of course, when your prince never arrives (and if they did, you found out they weren’t all that charming), you were taught that it was your fault that they never came or that they ran off with another maiden, or as the saying goes, “they’re just not that into you.”

From a young age, you were told that being single was wrong. That choosing not to settle means you were somehow broken and incomplete. That finding love should be treated like a job. A chore. A desperate search. Yet deep down you believe finding love should not be this difficult.

And even though you know this you stop listening to yourself and what you truly want in a relationship and listen more and more to the misguided advice of others.

You trust the dating tips that tell you to put on a mask “win” someone over but you keep ending up with same result.

You trust them to help you find love, to help you get engaged, because after all, you’re not. In a clouded attempt to help you, they create new rules that only lead you to feeling more confused.

So you keep listening to what they have to say.

You pay attention when they say if you want to find true love you must:

Love Rules
    • Not be too fat
    • Not be too skinny
    • Don’t have too much money, but don’t be broke
    • Be independent, but don’t be too successful
    • Play hard to get, but don’t play games. Wait 3 days to call
    • Take it slow. Speed it up

What if there was nothing to fix or heal?

Falling In LoveWhat if you were perfect just as you are?

What if the secret to getting engaged wasn’t about fixing something broken or healing some wound but, instead, awakening yourself to what it is you are truly looking for on a deeper spiritual level? What if we busted open the soul mate myth and shone the light on all the nonsensical advice.

What if we can give you the means and way to find the love of your life in a few short weeks?


“Hi Deb, So, first I want to tell you that I have found love this summer!!!! I bought the 7 set MP3 set from you and listened to at least one session every day!!! And at the same time, I stopped worrying about it… and lo and behold, I met Aaron! I am singing from the rooftops! I have been waving your book around as I sing! I’ve given a copy of your book to 4 of my friends so far!!!! They are into it too!” — Mari Ruddy | Denver, Colorado”
“THANKS so much as always for all this help. I feel like a totally different person because of my work with you. It’s been the equivalent of about 5 years and $10,000 worth of therapy.” — C.G. | New York City, NY
“It’s a great gift to myself. I deserve it and so does every one. Highly recommend it.” – Anonymous
“First time ever, when I don´t feel broken or weird. I learned that there is nothing wrong with me. I know there is a unique purpose that I came to fulfill in my life. It is ok that it will not always fit the society habits, it is ok that I haven´t found it yet. I don´t judge myself for my path of exploring and expressing my true self.” – Anonymous
“I really enjoy being in this program and don’t regret it a single day.”   -Anonymous

What if finding love was actually … fun?

Find Love

What if we didn’t treat it as a finish line of desperation, but an adventure? What if we didn’t make it feel like a job?


It begins with becoming conscious of who you are beyond the masks of your persona and know what your TRUE SELF wants so you can attract the right partner into your life.

This is a spiritual journey moving from trying to chase the love dream out there to turning inward to create a clear vision and allow it to flow to you.

We developed a program for intelligent, educated women and men who are ready for a deep shift without all the drama, healing or therapy. We know you are a mature, smart person who is looking for real answers and you don’t want to play dating games anymore. You also know that you are tired of being on the fix-me treadmill and ready to jump off and jump into real love!


Introducing …


Where finding love is not just a hope…but an eventuality

When you become conscious of what you truly want in your life, you can learn how to attract it and make it a reality — FAST. The reality is that most people remain single or don’t find fulfilling relationships because they are not conscious of their romantic choices.

We know true love isn’t about having the right profile or learning how to flirt or even where to look. True love shows up when you become conscious of why you are holding yourself back from having the love you want.

Until you uncover who you are on a deep level and who you’re really looking for, you won’t know how to consciously attract him (or her).



Debi Berndt and Roberto MaldonadoHow do I know about this?

This is Debi. I was single into my forties and felt trapped by my own mind in trying to figure out my blocks, heal my wounds and rehash my childhood. This only made me go deeper into despair feeling as though nothing was going to change. What actually made a difference was that I stopped fixing myself and start seeing life as a new possibility. I transformed my mind on the unconscious level which had kept me trapped in my default relationship mode and I uncovered my true self.

I found the love of my life when I was 41 years old and now we work together to liberate singles across the world to stop fixing themselves and to see the amazing person they already are. My name is Debi Berndt and I am the author of the bestselling book, “Let Love In: Open Your Heart & Mind to Attract Your Ideal Partner.” (Wiley 2010).

The love of my life and business partner, Dr. Roberto Maldonado (Doctor of Philosophy) and I have developed the Creative Love® Process based on Jung’s work and eastern philosophy. We believe that the journey to true love isn’t about going on lots of dates and having the right profile, but about understanding how your mind works and how to create Conscious Chemistry™ with your ideal partner.


Engaged in a Year™ is where you find love being TRUE to you!

Yes, I want to get Engaged in A Year™!



Basic Level

ONLY $1497

Regularly $1997

Includes 6-part Engaged in A Year Course,

Visualizations, and one (1) 30 minute love coaching session

with our Director of Coaching.

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JANUARY 17 & 18TH, 2015

Meet Debi & Robert in person and experience the Creative Love Process LIVE with other successful, smart women and men who are ready for real love!



Successful Creative Love Stories

“We are getting married on May 18th! This work changed my life” — C.B. | Denver, Colorado

“I can’t believe I actually got engaged in a year!” — G.W. | Galveston, TX

“He’s better than I imagined he would be.” — G.C. | Chicago, IL

“I am on cloud ten! Thank you for helping us find each other.” — T.C. | Toronto, CANADA

“We met 8 weeks after we started working together and just celebrating our one year wedding anniversary!” — A.D., New York, NY

“I’ve never been treated so well. This is the one!” — C.O. | Columbus, OH

“I’m engaged! Thank you so much for your guidance in drawing my true love to me.” — C.A. | Saudi Arabia

“Forget about Get Engaged in a year, you should call the program completely change your life mastermind, I got so much more than I expected!” — N.C. | Dublin, Ireland

I am now in a relationship that’s beyond my wildest dreams.

“I felt I had lost all hope of meeting a truly good man that I would also fall in love with. After a lot of not-so-great relationships, I felt I kept making one bad choice after another. Not having much else to lose, I kept with our program and did my homework. Not only did I meet the most amazing man a month after writing that email, we now live together in a beautiful apartment, about to take our relationship to the next level. I’m so grateful for Debi for not letting me settle, for guiding me to make better choices and helping me find the love and respect for me and through that, the most loving, respectful relationship that’s beyond my wildest dreams.”

— Annabella | NYC


This is much more than about finding love.

“I was in a spot in my life where I knew I needed to change.  That life had so much more to offer and I did not want to go on living the way I was anymore.  I had an urge inside me to find the greatness within myself.  Something others could see, but I did not believe in.   I was asking the universe for guidance and stumbled upon something from Debi online.   I have been in this program since May 2013 and just signed up for my second extension!  I am invested in the journey and (mostly) not worried about the end result as I know it will be exactly what I want it to be.  My life has changed so much since beginning EIY.  I am confident, grounded and happy.  I am so much more successful at work; finding opportunities I thought were ‘beyond my reach’.  I even lost 30 pounds (shadows and projections were weighing me down!).  People (even my executive boss) say, “Wow Stacey, you are a completely different person”.  I know I am not a different person, I am just finally in touch with my true self.   I have made so many new and lasting friendships.  Meeting men that are interested in dating me is easy.   I glow and love sharing my energy and love with everyone around me.  Have I met my husband yet, no.  Have I established the spiritual foundation and understanding of my true self, Yes!”.  Thank you Debi and Roberto. Thank you with all of my heart for entering my life at the right time, for being fun, energetic and caring teachers and mentors.” – S. Sullivan, Cambridge, MA
“EIY Program challenges the conventional way of thinking thus making it one of the “richest” material and content I have come across with. It has enriched my life, my thought process and looking forward to greater shifts in my life’s journey.”
PD – Dubai
“First time ever, when I don´t feel broken or weird. I learned that there is nothing wrong with me. I know there is a unique purpose that I came to fulfill in my life. It is ok that it will not always fit the society habits, it is ok that I haven´t found it yet. I don´t judge myself for my path of exploring and expressing my true self.” – Anonymous



Find My SoulmateThere are a lot of programs out there that talk about core beliefs and positive thinking and learning about your past patterns that drive your current relationships. So, you are probably really, really aware of these patterns and think you understand why your relationships are not working —but still things aren’t changing. WHY?

Because what you need to find out is what you are NOT AWARE OF that is UNCONSCIOUS that is holding you back from your true love.

Carl Jung famously said, “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you think of it as fate.”

You cannot change what you are not aware of.

In our Engaged in a Year™ Course, we will help you tune into the process of becoming your true self that is already happening inside of you. Once you activate the process with our work, you will start to accelerate your own transformation and the force within you that desires true love will CARRY YOU and GUIDE YOU to your amazing partner.

No more struggling to figure it out and making it work, you tap into the flow and become a unified part of the transformational nature of your true self

Yes, I want to get Engaged in A Year™!


 ONLY $1497

Regularly $1997

 Find Your Soul Mate | Reserve Your Seat