As I studied personal growth and the law of attraction, I often heard experts label feelings as negative and positive. As I evolved in my own process, I realized that some of the so-called negative feelings such as anger, fear, and despair had a purpose and I could actually use the uncomfortable sensations to become more powerful. If you simply resist them or, worse, suppress them, you make the feelings stronger and they ultimately control your life.
You see, almost all of our feelings were stored before we were ten years old. Many times what scared you back then was probably a good thing. I remember that my mother warned me to not talk to strangers; she said that there are bad men out there who take little girls. One day, when I was about ten years old, I was walking home from school and a car pulled up and the driver was a man exposing himself. He called me toward the car and asked me for directions. I was so scared, remembering what my mom had said and stayed far away from the car and ran home. We reported it to the police and it was a very devastating experience for a little girl. It could have been much worse if I ended up getting close enough for him to grab me. The fear I had saved my life.
Now, I am a grown up, I don’t have to be so afraid of talking to strangers. Of course, I wouldn’t get close to a car with a man exposing himself again, but I don’t need that intense fear of strange men that I had when I was little. Through hypnosis you can upgrade those old feelings to serve you as an adult. The fear still can protect you from danger, but you can reduce its intensity to match real danger instead of something imagined by a child.
The primary goal of these feelings is to keep you safe and happy. Feelings of loneliness are just a sign that you want to feel connected and feelings of anger are a sign that someone stepped over your boundaries. Although the feeling may be uncomfortable, the sensation has a good intention or served you in the past to protect you.
As a child you may have learned to react but had no solution to reach the joy or safety that you desired. Working with the feelings as an adult gives you the opportunity to close those open ends to feel more complete and whole. Instead of drowning your sorrows or fears in food, alcohol or finding someone to love you to fix your feelings, you can find a better solution inside of you.
To find out their true gift to you, ask your feelings what they are trying to tell you either in meditation or through journaling. You may find amazing insight and see that these feelings are your allies, not the enemy. You can even imagine your adult self talking to your younger self and helping him or her feel safe. Once healed, you will be able to face any emotion with power and confidence. You become free of trying to be positive all the time and relax with the ebbs and flows of your life.