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What are your feelings trying to tell you?

As I studied personal growth and the law of attraction, I often heard experts label feelings as negative and positive. As I evolved in my own process, I realized that some of the so-called negative feelings such as anger, fear, and despair had a purpose and I could actually use the uncomfortable sensations to become more powerful.  If you simply resist them or, worse, suppress them, you make the feelings stronger and they ultimately control your life.

You see, almost all of our feelings were stored before we were ten years old. Many times what scared you back then was probably a good thing. I remember that my mother warned me to not talk to strangers; she said that there are bad men out there who take little girls. One day, when I was about ten years old, I was walking home from school and a car pulled up and the driver was a man exposing himself. He called me toward the car and asked me for directions. I was so scared, remembering what my mom had said and stayed far away from the car and ran home. We reported it to the police and it was a very devastating experience for a little girl. It could have been much worse if I ended up getting close enough for him to grab me. The fear I had saved my life.

Now, I am a grown up, I don’t have to be so afraid of talking to strangers. Of course, I wouldn’t get close to a car with a man exposing himself again, but I don’t need that intense fear of strange men that I had when I was little. Through hypnosis you can upgrade those old feelings to serve you as an adult. The fear still can protect you from danger, but you can reduce its intensity to match real danger instead of something imagined by a child.

The primary goal of these feelings is to keep you safe and happy. Feelings of loneliness are just a sign that you want to feel connected and feelings of anger are a sign that someone stepped over your boundaries. Although the feeling may be uncomfortable, the sensation has a good intention or served you in the past to protect you.

As a child you may have learned to react but had no solution to reach the joy or safety that you desired. Working with the feelings as an adult gives you the opportunity to close those open ends to feel more complete and whole.  Instead of drowning your sorrows or fears in food, alcohol or finding someone to love you to fix your feelings, you can find a better solution inside of you.

To find out their true gift to you, ask your feelings what they are trying to tell you either in meditation or through journaling. You may find amazing insight and see that these feelings are your allies, not the enemy. You can even imagine your adult self talking to your younger self and helping him or her feel safe. Once healed, you will be able to face any emotion with power and confidence. You become free of trying to be positive all the time and relax with the ebbs and flows of your life.

Power of Forgiveness – Preview Video

Here’s a video preview of the Powerful Self-Forgiveness Audio Program (video not included in purchase):

This audio is available in my Love Switch Courses.

12/2 Release Stress for Holidays Free Teleseminar

bridge300Let’s face it: The holidays aren’t necessarily jolly for millions of people.

Research shows that this holiday season causes people to experience much more stress and anxiety than the rest of the year.

Take heart. Help is on the way!

Learn to Relieve Holiday Stress on Dec. 2 at 8 pm EST in a calming, life-changing teleseminar that I am co-hosting with Connie Bennett, acclaimed author of Sugar Shock.

Hurry now to join this Dec. 2 teleseminar which is expected to fill up quickly.

Make sure to order your replay now, too, so that you can listen to this program over and over again when your holiday worries abound.

Connie BennettConnie and I are holding this Relieve Holiday Stress program to help you, because research shows during this time of year you most need help.

In fact, the American Psychological Association (APA) found that nearly half of all women in the United States experience heightened stress during the holidays, which puts their health at risk.

For instance, many of you women – and, of course, you men – become burdened by:

  • That annoying, but well-meaning parent, sibling, cousin or distant relative;
  • Worries about weight and how you look;
  • Marital strife or loneliness, especially if you don’t t have a significant other;
  • Money woes;
  • Health problems;
  • Insecurities about giving the right gifts (and wondering if you have the money to buy them);
  • The loss of your loved ones (either recently or in previous years);
  • The depressing economy; and
  • Credit card debt.

No wonder many of you are tempted to pig out at family gatherings, holiday feasts, work parties and other functions!

You’re not alone. Women – and, of course, men — rely more on unhealthy behaviors to manage stress during the holidays. In all, 41 percent of women use food and 28 percent use alcohol, according to a 2006 study.

Getting more money, finding a partner and devouring several pieces of Pecan Pie are NOT the answers to heal your holiday stress.

Finding the root of your stresses and anxiety can help you breeze through the holiday season.

Sign up now at  Connie’s site so you can join us for a free teleseminar on Dec. 2 at 8 pm EST so you can, Release Holiday Stress. Order your replay now, too.

Join us to get simple tools and techniques to breeze through the holidays with peace of mind rather than cave in under stress.

This Release Holiday Stress teleseminar — which is free now to attend live — may help you to:

  • Lose or maintain weight;
  • Relax around your family and friends;
  • Curb your sugar cravings;
  • Be happier throughout the holiday season and beyond;
  • Find love or get along better with your partner;
  • Feel good about your body no matter what;
  • Be calm when you’re short on funds;
  • Attract money;
  • Exude confidence; and
  • Become the master of your life by dissolving your stresses and anxiety.

FYI, if you’re worried about your weight and wondering how this program will help you, you’ll be encouraged when you learn about one research study in Health Magazine. Scientists found that dieters who tried hypnosis lost almost twice as much weight as those who didn’t.

This Release Holiday Stress program — which is expected to fill up quickly, so you’re invited to sign up now — will include an empowering, life-changing, fun hypnosis session that will allow you to release stress and anxiety so you’ll feel better and ease into the New Year empowered to live the life you love.

Join us Wed., Dec. 2 at 8 pm EST to learn how to thrive through the holidays—to lose or maintain your weight, deal with all the sugar pushers, the family pressures, the money issues and much more.

Sign up now for this free teleseminar.

Make sure to reserve your low-priced audio replay of the program so that you can be calm during the holidays and successful in the new year.

Spread the word to your friends and family members about this life-changing program.

Battling Negative Thinking by Watering the Rose

When you realize that your thoughts create your life, at first you may feel liberated and think, “That’s easy, I’ll just change my thoughts.” However, when you attempt to shift the mind from its old patterns, a great resistance presents itself within you and you begin an internal battle. Your pattern of thinking has been consistent for decades and you cannot just flip a switch and become super-positive and attract a car, a lover, a house or a job overnight. The process of transforming your habits of thinking takes some time and effort but the rewards are amazing.

Of course, the fastest and most effective way to shift your thinking is using self-hypnosis because it works with the subconscious mind (the roots of your thinking). When your mind is in a relaxed state of trance, it is open to new ideas and allows the deep mind to absorb positive messages. It takes 1,000 affirmations to match the power of one affirmation in a hypnotic state. Depending on the person, it could take 30-90 days of regular daily practice to make a permanent shift in the subconscious about a certain core belief. During that time, the battle on the conscious level begins and many misinterpret this as the hypnosis isn’t working. The reality is that the closer you are to change, the louder the opposing force of thought becomes. It is actually working exactly as it should and there are ways to help it along by being present with your thinking throughout the day.

I recently came up with a great metaphor that may help you as you shift your thinking. Imagine that you have two potted plants in front of you. One pot contains a large, overgrown weed that contains all of the thoughts, ideas, beliefs that are not supporting what you want. The weed represents thoughts that are disempowering, negative and hurtful. Then, in the other pot imagine a beautiful rose. That rose represents the part of you that loves you, believes in you and attracts wonderful people, success and creativity into your life. Your focus directs which pot you water. So if you focus on the negative thoughts, you are watering the weed and it will grow larger and become more powerful. If you stop yourself and focus on the good in you and life, you are watering the rose.

You water the rose each time you listen to a self-hypnosis program, every time you do something nice for yourself or others, every time you think of someone you love or loves you, and every time you say “no” and keep your boundaries. You may not notice a big change overnight, but eventually that rose will grow into a large beautiful rose bush with lots of buds and a wonderful fragrance. The weed , without attention, will wither away and become weak. The negative thinking will slow down to a quiet whisper. There is a tipping point when you automatically water the rose without having to train yourself and you will naturally feel more confident, loving and positive about your life.

When you feel good naturally, you will be in the flow. You seem to be the lucky one, attracting opportunities, loving people, money, success and all those bonuses that you want in life. Regardless of what shows up, you just feel better. Remember, you get what you focus on so keep watering the rose and you’ll start to sing, “everything’s coming up roses!” in your life.

Love Hypnotist Show – Love Your Body, Love Your Life

Love Hypnotist, Debra Berndt interviews body image expert, Sarah Maria, author of Love Your Body, Love Your Life: 5 Steps to End Negative Body Obsession and Start Living Happily and Confidently. Sarah’s website is

Sarah Maria: Author of Love Your Body, Love Your LifeSarah Maria is a body-image expert who helps people love their bodies no matter how they look. She shows people how to discover the beauty that is already inside of them, right now, in this moment. Once they connect with this beauty, they will discover that anything is possible – that they can create a body and a life that they truly love. Her mission is to create a world where every person sees the beauty in themselves and in others.

Her book, Love Your Body, Love Your Life is available now for purchase at Sarah Maria has trained with well-known teachers and physicians, including Deepak Chopra, Dr. David Simon, Wayne Dyer, and Jack Canfield, among others. Her work has been endorsed by Deepak Chopra, Dr. David Simon, and NY Times best-selling author Marci Shimoff, as well as many other notable physicians, psychologists, and educators. Before writing her first book, she received a law degree from Stanford and a Master’s degree in international affairs from Columbia University.

Hypnosis Explained – Life Coach TV Interview in NYC

Check out my interview on Life Coach TV in NYC. It is 30 minutes in length and separated into three sections for size consideration. Here I explain to Laurie Lawson of the International Coaches Federation – NYC Chapter Vice President the benefits of hypnosis and how it can help coaches get faster results for their clients. Learn the myths of hypnosis, the power of the subconscious mind and what stops you from reaching your goals. How hypnosis can help you shift your life in a new direction.

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Workout Motivation with Hypnosis

Check out an interview Debra Berndt, Clinical Hypnotherapist and Relationship Expert had with Denver’s ABC News on Saturday morning about how to motivate yourself to workout with self hypnosis. Weight loss with hypnosis tips are also included in this segment. Debra is now located in NYC area.

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Lose Weight with Hypnosis

Clinical Hypnotherapist and Relationship Expert, Debra Berndt explains how you can lose weight with the help of self-hypnosis in her ABC News Interview below:

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How to heal from a Breakup and Lose Weight with hypnosis

Hear Love Coach and Relationship Expert, Debra Berndt discuss how breakups can cause weight can and how hypnosis can heal a broken heart as well as help you shed the pounds.

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Hypnosis for Stress & Weight Loss

Watch Debra’s ABC News Interview on  Stress and Weight Loss and how hypnosis can help both areas. Debra is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and Relationship Expert and is a regular guest on ABC News Denver.

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