You hear all of the advice on how to act and the proper behavior for landing a man. The real secret to attracting lasting love is through something unseen. You may seem like a grown-up but do you show up on a date feeling like a helpless little girl with her ruffled panties? You look sexy, but are your actions and energy reflecting your insecure younger self?
Most likely if you are feeling like a little girl, you are unconsciously attracting little boys. Men disguised as grown-ups but they are still sucking their thumb when you aren’t looking. These men are the ones who don’t know what they want, chase much younger women and avoid adult conversations by not calling you back.
The sad thing is that over and over I hear the sob stories of women who tell me about the little boys who broke their heart. I used to tell those same dark tales too. I didn’t realize that my attraction was driven by my younger, ignorant one who was acting from a place pain instead of power.
If you are struggling with dating and finding a man to call you back or respond to you in a respectful way, then maybe you better check out your underwear. If you have unmet emotional needs from childhood, your little one is probably still in charge of your dating decisions. The men your little girl chooses aren’t prepared for a grown-up relationship and you will always be led back to heartbreak.
In order to attract a man who is mature enough to honor and respect you, it is important to come from a place where you are wise enough to recognize him. When the little girl is running your dating life, her blinders are shut to the ones who are ready for love. She gets distracted by the guy who is fun and forgets about the love she wanted in the first place.
So, the next time you go on a date, trade your ruffled panties for a cute pair of thongs (or Spanx). Become the woman who makes mature decisions from her grown-up self. Don’t be the girl who waits around for a man to decide her worth, but a woman who comes already equipped with her own high value.
When you are making a decision during the dating process, avoid consulting with the little girl inside because she will always lead you to more of the same. Instead, ask yourself “What would powerful me do?” You don’t have to follow rules of conduct set by others to get someone to respond to you. Put on your big girl pants and you will be lead to that grown man in boxers has so much big love waiting for you.